In the spirit of the Independence Day, I want you to take some time to reflect on the importance of “Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness” not only when it comes to our country, but when it comes to your personal life.
I believe each of us has the power to discover our purpose and become joyful in the pursuit of that purpose. This journey may not be easy however; if you look back in history you’ll realize that nothing important and meaningful ever is.
To help guide you in your pursuit of happiness, I want to introduce you to what I call the “LIVE RICH FACTOR”. I call it this because those who find the purpose that leads them to happiness are the luckiest people in the world and are in fact, the ones who are truly living richly.
There are four basic principles involved in creating your LIVE RICH Factor:
PRINCIPLE ONE | BECOME CONNECTED WITH YOUR TRUTH.
The hardest thing to do is to be honest with yourself. We lie more to ourselves than to anyone else. You must tell yourself the truth about whether or not you are truly happy. If you are not happy, you must admit it to yourself. To really be connected to your truth, you must tell yourself and the world the truth. You must have what I call “truth congruence”— which means that who you are on the inside matches who you show to the world on the outside.
PRINCIPLE TWO | STOP JUDGING YOURSELF.
You are your own harshest critic. Many people talk to themselves in a way they would never accept from a stranger, a friend, or a loved one. If this describes you, try stopping the negative conversations you have with yourself immediately.
Try this, for one week, simply commit to just saying “Stop it!” when you think a negative thought about yourself. If you are in the habit of saying negative things to yourself, you will find this is one of the most difficult exercises you will ever do. Carry a pad with you at all times and make a mark each time you catch yourself “thinking negative.” You’ll find that as the days go on your negative thinking can quickly be reduced. The motivational expert Zig Ziglar uses a phrase I love about people having “stinking thinking.” Your job is to cut out that stinking thinking.
PRINCIPLE THREE | STOP JUDGING OTHERS.
It’s hard to be joyful when you’re always judging others. In fact, it’s close to impossible. Judging others creates a huge amount of stress in our lives. It affects our marriages and our relationships with our kids as well as the way we relate to friends, coworkers, and society in general.
We are not here to judge one another. The next time you find yourself upset at someone or some situation, stop yourself and ask, “Are you judging?” Judging others is often an unconscious habit. But it’s a habit that can be changed the moment you decide to stop doing it and just this little change can make a huge difference.
PRINCIPLE FOUR |PURSUE FUN WITH A VENGEANCE.
It’s okay to pursue fun. It’s what children do. My greatest joy these days is the simple pleasure of going to the park with my sons, Jack and James. The park is free; the time I spend with them in the park is priceless.
Why do we stop pursuing fun as we get older? Fun shouldn’t be squeezed into a few weeks of vacation each year. It shouldn’t be squeezed into the last chapter of your life when you will supposedly have enough money to “retire.” Fun deserves to be a part of your life now. Most of the things in life that are fun can be done for little or no money. But fun doesn’t just happen. You must make having it a priority in your life or it will go missing. And life is too short to not have fun.
This 4th of July I want you to take a moment and think about your pursuit of happiness and then go HAVE FUN! Report back to me by commenting below or on my Facebook page about what makes your life RICH!